- the dashing and debonair Dr Dirk Diction
- his wife and partner grammarian Ella Quince, who is always in style
- Syntaxator, a gentle giant famous for his impersonations
- The Splicer, an ambiguous fellow capable of destroying the very things he aims to mend
- the ever witty and a propos "Bartlett" (always in quotes)
- their sexy, dominant leader The Grammatrix, who is harsh only to be kind, for her discipline makes us better people
- and the loose cannon of the group, the Grammatrix's twin sister, Lingua (the Tongue), who keeps going wrong though she tries to be good, and who has a tendency for slipping
Which gets me to the moment of this post: Brian McLaren's recent post at the God's Politics blog. McLaren uses that pastorly ploy of sharing an anecdote in which he himself features as the learner so that he can, in his assumed position of knower, meet us, as the learner's at his feet (or fingers, as it were), where we're at (Where you at?). Style aside, there's wisdom in the notion that an attitude or spirit underlies the way we use language, and that spirit infects the context into which we speak. Just like selfishness on the road creates a traffic jam of everyone fighting for position, anger or vitriol in our speech, whether in our homes or online, creates an atmosphere of competition, anger, shame, anxiety, etc.
Christians like to cite the Scripture, "speak the truth in love," both to justify the wishy-washy, smarmy, coddling of others and to temper such a spineless attitude. I often find the latter camp as annoying as the former, since they will say what they believe, then try to qualify and soften it for an audience they imagine might be offended by a viewpoint different than their own. This often has the form of, "I don't mean to say..." or "I'm not trying to discount/diminish/deny..."
That kind of rhetoric certainly isn't violent or hateful (as McLaren speaks of), but it also isn't that different than a coddling, enabling version of love. In fact, it works in part to protect the speaker/writer from accusations of harshness or from any real critique at all - "Oh, but I didn't actually say anything definite, I just indicated a direction, then said what people already do or say is okay, thereby removing any real challenge to make more than superficial changes in their lives or attitudes. Don't blame me."
Ella Quince has no patience for such quibbling. A challenging word must stand as a true challenge, or else why speak it? Qualifications and coddlings indicate a distrust of one's audience, and audiences, I like to think, tend on the whole to pick up on such things and to not like them. To let love lie under our language is a worthy goal, but it requires us to really examine what we mean by "love."